Many people believe that always responding to a babies needs will make him "spoiled." On the contrary, the more responsive you are to an infant’s needs, the less “spoiled” the baby will be as they get older. Bonding creates trust, and children who are bonded with tend to be more independent, not less. Research shows that babies whose needs are met quickly as infants actually become more secure and confident and less whiny as children. suggests Brandy K; "If your baby is having some separation anxiety and is being extra-needy, wanting to be held all the time, the quickest way to get him through it is to be there for his every cry (whenever possible). "knowing" that you are there for him all the time, whenever needed, will build his confidence and support him in becoming an independent person.
It is easy to feel down when you have a newborn. After all, the changing, feeding, holding and soothing can make any mom feel as if they are doing "nothing" all day! Realizing that every time you touch, hold, sooth, or talk to your little baby, you are affecting his/her future, and your child's self esteem can help. What you are doing is priceless!
Some newborns need to be held a lot to feel secure, some don't. Each baby has her/his own unique needs. Giving into a child because you are afraid of them, or because you don't know how to deal with them, can spoil a child. Saying NO and then changing your mind only because you don't want your child to feel sad can spoil a child. But giving a child what they need, being there for them to teach them to feel safe and loved is LOVE. You can never give too much love!
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Agreed!! Someone once said about a whining child- ignore them! They are only trying to get attention" to which a wise person responded "they are looking for attention?? So give it to them! Look ino their eyes, hold their hands, and say with emotion how much you love them! Why withhold what they are asking for? "
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