Part of emotional health is understanding the roots of our own emotions. Many of the things that bother us today have thier source in negative childhood experiences. Finding ways to reframe those experiences, may help us confront similar situations in a more productive pleasant manner.
When a situation frustrates you, taking a moment to listen to your thoughts, can help redirect a negative thought process to a more positive one. For example, say a well-meaning yet ill-equipped teacher used to call you a "disorganized mess" every time you couldn't find your homework. Instead of hearing the words "you are a mess" in your mind every time you leave something out, you can tell yourself I am only human! I am working on becoming more organized and trying my best.
Thinking positive thoughts about yourself will eventually become a habit. The more you tap into your thought patterns, the more you will notice the tension and anxiety that are caused by your negative self-talk. If you burn the soup and feel bad about it, you may be saying to yourself; whats wrong with me, I'm so careless! Instead, you can train your mind to be accepting and forgiving of your own mistakes; I'm human, everybody makes mistakes. what's the worst thing that can happen?
A mother who recognizes her own emotional needs is in a better position to meet the emotional needs of her children. We all have negative emotions; we just need to learn to deal with them without letting them control us. Children don't have the tools and the emotional awareness to understand what they are feeling and why. A mother can tell her child "when I feel like screaming I count to ten and take deep breaths." This teaches her child an invaluable lesson in how to manage her/his own moods! A mom might realize that when shes hungry, she tends to get agitated and doesn't have the patience to listen to her children. Instead of trying to suppress her own hunger and then lashing out, she can tell her child; "When I am very hungry, it is hard for me to listen to you because I feel cranky. After I eat, I will be able to give you my full attention because I will feel better."
One who is self aware is more equipped to take care of herself and her needs, thus effectively helps her children learn to do the same.